Our baby story

Well, no baby YET!
Here are the details of our battle with infertility . . .

In 2011 I posted a blog about the #1 Question that Chris and I have been asked over the past few years.

Can you guess what it was?
"So, when are y’all going to have kids?"
And in 2011 my answer was, “For those of you that have known me for any amount of time know that I LOVE kids and I am very much looking forward to the day that I will be a mom, but for now, I'm good!”

Well, that was 2011 and if y’all haven’t notice it's already 2013 . . . . So with that being said here is our newest challenge.
*I am sharing our story because I want others to know they are not alone as well as to ask for your prayers.
– Thank you so much to those of you that have already been praying, it means so much to us!

I have always wanted to be a mom more than anything else I have done or will do in my life and in April 2012 Chris and I decided it was about to time start a family.

*April 2012 – nothing, May – nothing, June – nothing, July – nothing . . . .

After 4 months of trying I began to deal with different medical issues (which I later found out where symptoms of PCOS) and I had a feeling something wasn’t right. So I made an appointment in July to see what might be going on and it was then that I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome a.k.a. PCOS. The picture below gives a pretty good explanation of PCOS.
When I got the news I was surprisingly okay. I know a few women who also have PCOS and they all have children with the help of some pretty simple pills so I wasn’t discouraged and my doctor seemed to think that if I started taking Metformin (commonly given to people who have diabetes but apparently can help in situations like this) that it would help to regulate my hormones and in turn I would begin to ovulate and have a baby soon. I was told that it would take my body about 3 months to adjust to the meds and they were not lying! I’ll spare you the list of side effects but if you’re interested just click on the link above.
I’ll just sum that up by saying HoLy CrAp August, September, and October were NOT so fun!

*August - nothing, September – nothing

I went back in September for blood work and the doctor said all my levels where looking good and seemed hopeful that I would be getting a big fat positive soon. I left the doctor’s office still hopeful that I would be pregnant soon.

*So on things went . . . October – nothing, November – nothing, December – nothing . . .

I went back to the doctor in December and he seem to think things were still going okay but that I should try to lose a little weight and that would hopefully increase my chances.

Well, that’s easier said than done. One of the unfortunate side effects of PCOS is that it pretty much kills your metabolism which makes the whole weight loss thing a little harder than normal. So, with the help of the Metformin, changing my diet and I am going to a boot camp close to home 5 days a week I'm on the right track. (Thank God Heather is doing it with me, I don’t think I would go if I had to go alone!)

Up to this point I was still optimistic for the most part, I had definitely had my moments of ups and downs emotionally but it wasn’t too bad but at the beginning of this year is when I think everything really hit me, the frustration and doubt had begun to set in.

All those questions that you think would have hit me on the day I got the news flooded in . . . what is going to happen, how am I going to handling this, why would God do this to me, He knows my heart and my desire to be a mom.

*January 2013 – nothing, February – nothing, March – nothing, April - nothing . . .

Over the past few months I have had many break down which are caused by anything from holding a baby to a simple/innocent comment about us having a baby to reading this sign in the book store last week have caused me to lose it.
Poor Chris has been a real trooper, he has seen me go from being totally fine to uncontrollable crying within seconds and through it all he has remained strong. I am so thankful for him.

I had a doctors appointment in April and I sat down and talked with my doctor about what our next steps should be and here is what we have decided that I would stay on Metformin and try to stay healthy.

In April Chris also went to the doctor to get everything checked and he was given the "all clear"!

May - nothing, June - nothing, July - nothing, August - nothing . . .
  I went back to the doctor in August and as told that after Chris went back to the doctor and got the all clear again that I could begin taking Clomid (an ovulation stimulant)

In September Chris went to the doctor to get everything check again before I started the next round of pills (clomid) and the test results came back that even though everything was in the clear for him last time, now things aren't working anymore. So now neither one of us "work" :'(

In November Chris went back to another doctor and had more testing done. He is now in the clear. THANK YOU JESUS! :)

I plan on going back to the doctor in the future because we have not ruled out the possibility of conceiving a baby but ... 

We've decided that we are just going to start the adoption process and if I get pregnant along the way even better and if not we will still have a baby.Chris and I have always wanted to be adoptive parents whether we conceived or not! :)

I've never felt an overwhelming peace like this about any decision before.

God's got a plan!

We believe God already has our baby picked out; we just haven’t met them yet!
We would GREATLY appreciate your continued prayers!
Thank you in advance for the prayers, love and support!
Dallas’ Mom and Dad
Bethany and Christopher 

Chris and I have always wanted to be adoptive parents but we also planned on conceiving first. Due to different fertility issues we've decided that this was God's way of saying it is time we start the adoption process. We believe God already has our baby picked out; we just haven’t met them yet!
We have selected Chosen Child Adoption Agency and we will begin the paperwork, home study and LOTS more in January but until then we have a lot to do!
With that being said the adoption process is not an easy road and it requires a lot of resources so we are asking for your help!

Our adoption is going to cost about $30,000; this includes (but is not limited to):

Orientation fee
Home study fee
Agency application & program fee
Attorney fees
Document preparation & authentication
Other expenses

Please take the time to think about what you can do to help!
**For those of you that know Chris and I personally, you know that we have had our first baby's name picked out for over 8 years now but for those of you that aren't aware we will be naming our first baby (boy or girl):Dallas Scott Lopez  
That is how we came up with the name for our Adoption Fundraiser, Waiting for Dallas!
Follow us in our journey: www.cb-lopez.blogspot.com
"Like" our facebook page: www.facebook.com/waitingfordallas13

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  1. I had no idea that all this was going on, and yes I have been wondering when yall would start a family but didn't want to impose by asking when you would. So I will join the many prayers going up already and God to open your womb and place a precious baby there. I know you will be an awesome mother and Chris will be an awesome daddy. Hang in there, God is mindful of it all. Love you guys, Deborah

  2. I stumbled upon your blog. I adopted my son at birth 16 years ago as a result of my husband and I having infertility issues as well. It is a heart breaking time but GOD will see you through. We used Christian Homes of Abilene, Texas and it was wonderful.

  3. I know the pain and frustration that you have been going through and I am sure still are going through. I was married in July 2004. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2007. After almost 10yrs of false hope with a late period, negative pregnancy tests,tears,fears,and finally letting Go...everything lined up and now we have Corbyn. I don't know what happened, if it was just God's timing, but I do know the pain and hurt of not knowing...of asking God why not me...of feeling like I was some how less of a woman because I couldn't give my husband a child...but that is just the enemy attacking our spirit. God knows who you are going to be a mommy to. Whether it is through adoption or birth. You and Chris and Dallas will remain in my prayers and thoughts. PCOS is a hard disease to deal with, especially for us ladies who have dreamed of being mommies. Keep your head up--He knows the plans He has in store for you and they are for your good. Praying! Harmony